We Gotta Thing: the couple’s podcast explaining the lifestyle

Mr & Mrs Jones host We Gotta Thing, one of the longest-running English-language podcasts about the swinging lifestyle. For more than a decade they have talked openly about how they practice consensual non-monogamy as a married couple, and around the show they have built a community, a travel calendar and a library of content for newcomers. This article looks at what they do, the message they share and why they have become a reference point, based only on what they have published themselves.

Who they are

They use a stage name, Mr & Mrs Jones, and describe their project simply: they are "a long-time married couple deepening our relationship through the swinging lifestyle" (podcast listing on Apple Podcasts, accessed November 6, 2026). On their website they explain that the show started as a way to "chronicle our journey in the swinger lifestyle" (wegottathing.com, accessed November 6, 2026).

Respecting that choice, BarSwinger uses only their public name. We don't publish or look for personal details they haven't shared.

What kind of content they create

The podcast is the core of the project. According to its Apple Podcasts listing, the show has been active since 2014 and had published 165 episodes by November 2026, with an average rating of 4.6 out of 5 from 747 ratings (Apple Podcasts, accessed November 6, 2026). That consistency is rare: few niche podcasts keep a regular schedule for so long.

Recent episode topics show their approach. They discuss the judgment and insecurity that come up when starting out, how non-monogamy fits into everyday life, how to handle feelings as a couple, and even how menopause affects life in the lifestyle. They also record listener Q&A episodes (Apple Podcasts). The tone is closer to a couple's conversation than to a show.

Beyond the podcast, their website gathers blog posts, recommendations, card games for couples and a travel and events section (wegottathing.com).

Their message about the lifestyle

On their website they sum up their philosophy: the lifestyle is about "having fun, enjoying like-minded friends" (wegottathing.com). That idea runs through all their content. They present swinging as something done as a couple and for the couple, not as an escape from it.

Three ideas come up again and again:

• Communication comes first. Many episodes deal with conversations beforehand, agreements and revisiting those agreements.
• Feelings are real. Rather than denying jealousy or insecurity, they treat them as part of the journey and talk about handling them.
• The lifestyle isn't one-size-fits-all. Every couple sets its own boundaries, which is why they spend so much time on listeners' specific questions.

It's very close to the approach in our guides on consent and boundaries and your first club visit.

Community and reach

Around the podcast they have built a community with free and paid tiers. According to their website, it includes a free information hub and topic groups, for example for couples discussing the lifestyle with each other, for single men, or for Christians in the lifestyle. The community mixes online interaction and in-person meetups (wegottathing.com).

Their travel and events section links to adult resort bookings and activities organized by their community (wegottathing.com). It's an example of how many creators in this space combine content, community and travel.

We don't include audience figures they haven't published themselves. The verifiable facts are the show's consistency and its public rating on Apple Podcasts.

Why it matters for newcomers

For a couple doing their research, We Gotta Thing has one advantage: more than ten years of episodes form a large archive of real questions answered first-hand. The tone is respectful and conversational rather than sensational. The groups for very different profiles also highlight something often forgotten: the lifestyle brings together people of very different ages, beliefs and circumstances.

Where to follow them

• Official website: wegottathing.com
• Podcast: We Gotta Thing on Apple Podcasts

Frequently asked questions

What is We Gotta Thing?

A podcast and community about the swinging lifestyle hosted by a married couple known as Mr & Mrs Jones. It has been running since 2014, according to its Apple Podcasts listing.

What topics do they cover?

Couple communication, feelings, insecurity, listener questions and how consensual non-monogamy fits into daily life, among others.

Do you have to pay to listen?

Podcast episodes are free on the usual platforms. Their community has free and paid tiers, according to their website.

About this article: this piece is based solely on content Mr & Mrs Jones have published on their official channels (wegottathing.com and Apple Podcasts), accessed November 6, 2026. If you are Mr & Mrs Jones and want to correct anything, give us an interview or ask us to remove it, get in touch and we'll take care of it.